In the four years we were together after meeting online, he’d suffered a handful of seizures but when he had one a few days after Hugo’s birth in January 2019, I was frightened enough to move my mum in.īeing woken suddenly could trigger a fit, so we agreed he’d sleep in the spare room, and Mum would help me with the baby during the night. And it would have been all those things, and worse, had it not been for Mum’s constant presence, and encouragement that I could, and should, rebuild my life.ĭan, who I married in 2017, was diagnosed with epilepsy when he was 18, but it was generally well controlled with medication. Back then, when I thought about my future, it looked bleak, terrifying and overwhelming. It was her name I screamed when I touched his cold skin, her arms I fell into as trauma enveloped me, her voice whispering words of comfort through her own tears.
Mum was with me the morning I found my husband dead, two weeks after the birth of our son. Elizabeth Bargery, 35, a veterinary physiotherapist, lives in Cardiff with her parents and her three-year-old son Hugo
